arlene for you:

MAX: You didn’t marry me.
LORELAI: Yes, I know, but I never really explained why. I just didn’t.
MAX: You didn’t love me.
LORELAI: I don’t think I didn’t love you. I think. . .I think I was not ready to get married.
MAX: Because you didn’t love me.
LORELAI: No, I really don’t think that was it. Sometimes the person you love is not the person you’re ready to live with forever. I’m not saying this is right, but –
MAX: Lorelai, listen to me. I appreciate this, I really do, but there’s no need for it. I’m really okay.
LORELAI: Oh, no, I know you’re. . .no, I’m sure you’re okay. I’m not saying this because you don’t look okay. You look great. Really great. Although, I’m not saying this because you look really great, although you do. Did you join a gym in California?
MAX: Lorelai, look. I’ve always wanted to teach at a university like Stanford. And finally, the opportunity came up, I went, and it was wonderful. And, frankly, if we had been getting married, I wouldn’t have been able to take it.
LORELAI: You’re welcome.
MAX: And being away gave me time to think. I thought, and now I’m fine.
LORELAI: It’s just, we never had any closure.
MAX: Life’s not really about closure, is it?
LORELAI: No, I guess not. So, you’re okay?
MAX: I’m okay. I’m over it.
LORELAI: You sure?
MAX: I am completely sure.

Later that night they saw each other in a classroom:

LORELAI: It was nice seeing you.
MAX: Nice to see you, too.
LORELAI: Take care of yourself.
MAX: I will.
[They kiss] :)
MAX: And apparently, I’m not over it.